Adult children suddenly inherit a parent's entire care and financial/legal administration load with no system, while also managing dementia medications and appointments

Summary

When the family member who handled everything (bills, insurance, bank accounts, appointments) dies, an adult child is instantly buried under a chaotic, unfamiliar administrative load on top of full-time work and dementia care. They must simultaneously manage medications, coordinate appointments, uncover hidden accounts, and settle an estate — with no single system that consolidates these tasks or guides them through the legal/financial maze. Existing tools are siloed (medication apps, estate attorneys, bill pay, calendar apps) and none address the combined care-plus-admin burden that falls on one person. The poster explicitly says they don't know how long they can keep doing it and are considering outside help, yet no product exists to offload or organize this overwhelming, high-stakes workload. This is a severe, common, and essentially unsolved pain point directly tied to medication management and care coordination for aging parents.